Many organizations have started shelters for women and children whom are affected by domestic violence. Often these centers are in every day neighborhoods and their locations are kept secret. As it is their goal to keep the abuser away from the abused. Domestic violence facts have stated, once women have made the decision to leave the abuser and press charges the abuser often gets mad, angrier than they have ever been and the abuse can excelled to something worse than it was before. As a result it is necessary to keep the women and children protected and safe from the abuser by keeping their location secret.

It is important for citizens of the United States to support these homes and provide abused women with things they may need to survive. There is a fear that domestic violence will increase in the United States as the economy continues to plummet. Often domestic abuse increases when there is stress in the household, job loss, potential of losing ones home, car and not being able to pay bills increase stress and often leads to drinking and further abuse.

It is the goal of agencies to help reduce these stresses and help families struggling with the potential of violence in the home so that we can reduce the number of women and children in the emergency room. It is very important that we educate those involved in domestic violence and abuse. There is a need to provide counseling to the abuser as well as the abused. The person being abused is not the only victim in this situation, often the abuser was abused as a child, he learned the behavior from somewhere. His or her actions will continue if we do not re direct him or her and teach him ways to deal with his anger, stress and frustration other than by hitting those they love and care for the most.

Domestic abuse is not always the wife or girlfriend being abused by the husband, there are cases in which the husband is being abused as well. Often the abuse goes both ways, the wife is hitting as much as the husband is. The best case scenario in situations like this is for the couple to separate and take classes to learn to deal with their anger. If they cannot be together without causing one another harm then they do not need to be together at all.

Domestic abuse also includes children, children see their parents being abused and at times the children are the ones being abused. Often if the father abuses the child, the mother is then verbally abused so that she will not report the actions of the father. Her goal is to protect her husband and does not see that what is happening to her children is wrong and needs to be stopped. She is so beat down emotionally that she does not have the energy to remove her children from the situation. In cases like this it is necessary for The Department of Children Services to step in and remove the children from harms way. Often when this happens the mothers are convinced to leave the fathers and to seek help for themselves as well.

Domestic violence in the United States is not just a problem for the police, social services and hospitals. It is a problem for all of us, and it is necessary for us to do what we can to help protect the victims of abuse.